He Talks About Other Girls
Why he mentions other women
You're talking, and somehow another woman comes up. Again. His ex. A coworker. Someone from an app. The girl at the coffee shop. He keeps bringing them up, and each mention stings. Why does he do this?
What Tarot Sees
This pattern of mentioning others appears frequently. The cards showThree of Swords—comparison, hurt, triangulation.Seven of Cups—many options, keeping doors open.The Lovers Reversed—disharmony, wrong focus.
Sometimes it's innocent—he's processing something. Sometimes it's calculated—testing your reaction. The cards reveal which it is and what it means for your potential relationship.
The Cards That Explain It
Three of Swords
He's not over someone. The mentions are involuntary—he's processing a heartbreak. You're hearing about her because she's still in his system. He can't be present with you while he's stuck in the past.
Seven of Cups
He's keeping options visible. Mentioning other women signals that you're not the only one. It's a subtle warning: don't get too attached. He wants you to know there's competition.
Five of Wands
He's creating competition intentionally. He wants you to fight for him. By mentioning others, he hopes you'll try harder, prove you're the best option. It's manipulation through insecurity.
Page of Swords
He's testing you. What's your reaction? Do you get jealous? Do you compete? He's gathering information, curious about how you handle it. Immature, but not necessarily malicious.
The Real Reasons
He's not over his ex. The most common reason. She's still on his mind. He talks about her because he's not done processing. You're a rebound, or at minimum, not his focus.
He wants you jealous. Some people think jealousy equals love. If you get upset, he feels wanted. He's insecure and uses your reactions to validate himself.
He sees you as a friend. He mentions other women because he doesn't see you romantically. You're in the friend zone, and he's comfortable talking about his dating life with you.
He's genuinely oblivious. Some people lack social awareness. He doesn't realize how it sounds. When told, he'll stop. But you have to tell him first.
What You Should Do
Notice the pattern. Is it one person he keeps mentioning, or multiple different women? One person suggests unresolved feelings. Multiple women suggests games.
Say something. "I've noticed you mention other women a lot. It makes me uncomfortable. Is there a reason?" Give him a chance to explain or stop.
Watch his reaction. Does he apologize and change? Or does he get defensive, call you jealous, keep doing it? His response tells you whether this is fixable.
Don't compete. Don't try to be better than the women he mentions. Don't chase harder. If he's creating competition, competing rewards his manipulation. Walk away instead.
The cards are clear: someone who's interested in you focuses on you. Constant mentions of other women mean either he's not available emotionally, or he's playing games. Neither is what you want. Address it once. If nothing changes, address your exit.
The Bottom Line
He talks about other girls because they're on his mind, he wants you insecure, or he doesn't see you romantically. None of these are good. You deserve someone who focuses on you, not someone who keeps showing you all the other options. Say something. If he doesn't stop, he's telling you where you stand.
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